DO YOUR THOUGHTS AND BELIEFS AFFECT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
- Published on Sunday, 21 April 2013 21:17
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When I found this article by Sherianna Boyle in her Powered By Me blog, I wanted to share it with you. It has a beautiful message about how powerful our thoughts and beliefs are and how they affect the teacher student relationship, as well as all other relationships in our lives. Powered By Me
Beliefs and Thoughts: How Powerful are They and How Do They Affect Our Students Ability to Learn?
The teacher/student relationship is like all other relationships in our lives; the quality of communication and understanding are both key to the development of each student and the fulfillment of the teaching process. When students enter the classroom, we don’t know what their thoughts or belief systems are, or how it will affect their learning and behavior in the classroom and beyond.
Recently, one of my college students raised his hand in class. I called on him and after hearing his answer I told him he had a good choice of words. He became red in the face and made a comment back that he thought I was being sarcastic. As the teacher, I had to be aware that his response to what I meant as a compliment, might have stemmed from some sort of past belief in not being “good enough”, making him unable to accept my response as a compliment.
Before we can guide our students and children towards a solution for their problems, educators and parents must first be conscious of different behavioral patterns and what causes them. We cannot prevent or fix something that we don’t understand and by paying attention rather than reacting right away, we can create a better, more trusting environment for learning.
According to various studies on thoughts and beliefs, the difference between the two is the level of power. Many thoughts run through our heads constantly, but they only become truly powerful when we begin to make them real and give them life. Take for example the situation with my student. The possibility of repeated thoughts of not being “good enough” could have transformed into a belief, therefore becoming more mentally powerful and causing the classroom reaction. Had I not been aware of this possibility, our interaction could have ended in a negative, non-productive way, instead of in a way that gave me an opportunity to teach.
Beliefs are reflections of how we interpret the events in our lives. By paying attention, you are more likely to respond calmly, creatively and intuitively from a place of love and understanding rather than fear.
It has been my experience that my thoughts and beliefs color all of my relationships and experiences, frequently causing me to misinterpret where the other person is coming from. Because of this, I have done a lot of inner work to help clear the cobwebs of my past. This process is an ongoing one and has taught me to be more aware so that I can “respond calmly, creatively and intuitively from a place of love and understanding rather than fear” more often. When I do this, my life is fluid and peaceful. As I have practiced this more often, it slowly has become automatic, especially when I needed it the most!
What do you think? I would love to hear your comments!