Who’s My Real Mother?

Published on Saturday, 11 May 2019 23:23

Nada

Have you lost your mother either through adoption, illness, or death?  Maybe you’ve always known your mother but feel you have never had a real connection to her. How much do you look outside of yourself for guidance, answers, direction, and support?  Does it feel like there is something more than what other mother figures have to offer you? You could be looking for your real mother, the one you think you lost somehow or feel you never had.

As a young girl, my mother was always ill. My older sister was the one who took care of me as if she was my mother and so I kept treating her like she was my mother.  It was disappointing when I got older and realized that she couldn’t even come close to being my mother even though she tried her best to take care of me when my own mother couldn’t.

As I grew up and realized that she wasn’t my mother, I continued searching for a mother on an unconscious level. Every woman I met who seemed to have the answers that I wanted and needed, I unconsciously made them a mother figure. And I asked them about everything and how to do everything almost as if I needed their guidance, support, and approval.  As a result, I ended up either giving them my power or pushing them away.

After my mother died, I repeated this pattern year after year through many different scenarios with many different people from girlfriends to “ gurus”, from neighbors to my father’s new wife, always feeling disillusioned with the results I received.   None of these women totally resonated with me or fit what and who I thought my mom should be. So, I would end up either pushing them away or they would end up leaving me to figure it out on my own.

Life can be challenging when you don’t feel like you have a mother figure, especially for a child or young adult who needs that Guiding Light.  Most of the time I felt lost. I didn’t know if I was doing the right thing or not. I constantly apologized to other people that I felt I offended because I was so insecure. I didn’t know that I was Divinely perfect because my mother didn’t reflect that back to me.

I was guided to follow many different Self Help programs and teachers to help heal my life of trauma and abuse. I  started to find the truth of who I am and became more connected to my Higher Self. However, even during this time, I unconsciously tried to make these teachers my mother.

After searching for my mother outside of myself, I finally realized that the mother I was looking for was the Goddess right inside me!  She was just waiting to wake up and be my guide, teacher and best friend.  She is the Bright Shining Light deep within me that comes from my Higher Self. She is the Goddess that is deeply imprinted into the DNA of all of my cells and has been a part of me all along, even before I was born. She is the Wise Woman that has always guided me even when I  felt alone. I didn’t realize she was there at the time, but now I do and I no longer search for her in other women. I am now confident in My Own Knowing, My Own Truth, and My Own Awareness of what is right and wrong for me. I now know that I came into this world with a deep inner knowing that I thought my physical mother was supposed to teach me.

However, many of the women in my life were there to help me find my true self and help me on my journey.  They knew full well that they did not have my answers and that I was the only one who knew my own truth, and what was right for me.  I am so grateful for and truly honor all of the amazing women who helped guide me along the way. They were the ones who kept guiding me back to myself, no matter how uncomfortable it was at the time.  I am forever grateful to them for helping me find my own way back to me.

If you are looking for your Real Mother, maybe it’s time for you to connect with that Goddess Mother inside of you.  She is the one that knows you better than anyone else, has all of your answers and is just waiting to guide you to be the empowered person you came here to be. Even if you are a man, you also have that feminine part within you that will help you bring balance to your masculine nature.

How do you make that connection?  I have created a powerful visualization journey that will help you.  It’s called “Connecting to the Mother Within”. As you read these words, trusting and believing in this process, you will be able to start to build a beautiful relationship with your real mother inside you.  So let’s begin…

“Allow yourself to grow calm, breathing deeply and slowly several times, in and out, until you feel fully present in this moment.   If your mind wanders just gently refocus it and bring it back with your breath.

Now imagine that you are in a beautiful meadow and it is the perfect time of day for you.  Feel the warmth of the sun on your body as you begin to feel excited to meet this part of you, your mother within.

Off in the distance, see someone walking toward you.  She is Radiantly Beautiful. She is Glowing. Her smile is so warm it touches your Heart.  The closer she gets, you notice her arms are outstretched and she is beckoning you into her embrace.

You feel yourself run to meet her.  You know her so well. You now know that she has always been there with you.  Her arms wrap around you and you feel so deeply loved, accepted and appreciated on every level.  

Now she invites you to sit down in the meadow with her and you share the sweetest heart to heart connection.  She helps you easily find your own answers to any of your questions. She also helps you build more Self Confidence in following your heart, trusting and believing what is true for you no matter what anyone else says or thinks.  You pause here to bask in her love and receive her wisdom…

As you do, you feel stronger than you ever have before.  The part of you that you thought was missing, your Real Mother is here with you now.  Feel the wholeness, the unconditional Love, the Freedom to be YOU!

When you are ready to come back to the present moment, take a few beautiful deep breaths in and out, feel the surface underneath you, and wiggle your fingers and toes. Notice that you still feel the Loving presence of your Mother Within.  She is always with you.”  

(©2019 Nada Howarth)

Each time you go through this process, you will continue to build a deeper relationship with the Real Mother within You.  ENJOY!!!

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂