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How to Empower Your Life by Reinventing the White Horse Syndrome!

 

Do you allow yourself to be continuously hurt by others you have somehow idolized?  Have you put them on a pedestal, made into a knight in shining armor or a perfect princess?  Then when they show their unique human side, you become devastated thinking that they aren’t who you thought they were.  You are not alone. It is often referred to as the White Horse Syndrome.  The Urban Dictionary describes this as, “A condition in which a person’s frame of thought in all things romantic is completely dream oriented and not grounded in reality.”

As children growing up, we learned to do this from fairytales and the example of adults in our lives. However, these experiences were there to teach us how to use our imagination and empower us to become the unlimited, deliberate creators we came here to be.  It was never intended for us to give our power away to another human being that we had imagined to be everything we could never become like. By desperately trying to become like them or somehow fit into their life, we end up losing ourselves in the process. The real pain is that we desert our true selves and get lost in a romantic dream that isn’t grounded in reality.

The truth is, No one is here to rescue you from reality or save you from anything, including yourself.  There isn’t anything you need to be rescued from. As you stay grounded and present in each moment, connected to your own Divine Guidance, you are perfectly safe.  You will know everything you need to know to create your Heart’s Desires.

How do you reinvent the White Horse Syndrome?  These six steps will help you to empower your life by staying grounded and connected to your own Dreams.  You will then be able to get back on your own White Horse and tap into the unlimited possibilities you can become and create.

  1. Embrace yourself as Divinely Perfect just as you are.  There is nothing to change or improve.  You are more than enough. Love all parts of yourself for who you are as a human being.  The perceived good and bad are both parts of your path to wholeness. 

  2. Honor your feelings, and allow yourself to feel them.  Denying your feelings will only take you further away from who you truly are.  This can cause you to believe that you aren’t good enough, that there is something wrong with you, or that others have what you are missing.

  3. Embrace others as being Divinely Perfect just as they are.  Allow them to be human beings doing the best they can under their present circumstances, just like you are.  This doesn’t mean you have to like or even approve of every part of their personality, or actions. Just know that who they truly are goes far deeper than they will ever show most people.

  4. See others you admire as Mirrors reflecting all that you already are or have the capacity to become.  You are not them, but you couldn’t see something you like or love about them if you didn’t already possess that same quality or have the capacity to become more like it.  Use that reflection to encourage you to be your own unique version of what you see and appreciate in others. 

  5. Forgive and Let Go of anything anyone does that doesn’t turn out to be the way you thought it should be.  Accept that none of us have the whole picture. Hold onto the vision that somehow everything happens for the highest good of all. 

  6. Put everyone back up on their own white horse, including yourself.  See them as perfect, being Divinely guided to follow their own path and live their true purpose.  We are all doing our best and deserve each other’s compassion, including our own.

When we follow these steps, we are choosing to see the Highest truth for all. We are doing our best to keep riding that White Horse of our own dreams every day. 

 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

 

FREE TO BE ME!!!

If you are a habitual people pleaser, like I have been, it is probably hard to feel personally empowered, free to be yourself, or happy, joyful, peaceful and loving.  Instead, it can make you feel unempowered, imprisoned, stressed, anxious, codependent and victimized.

Over time, this habit can become a big part of your identity and make you lose sight of who you really are.  You may not even realize that you are being a people pleaser because it is the only way you know how to be. As others pick up on this, you find yourself allowing them to use you.  Then you become a victim of their desires.

As you choose to put your wants and needs last, you begin to resent that you are always making everyone else happy by sacrificing your own needs. This can make you feel like you are very good at making peace, but not good at feeling so peaceful within yourself.  You deny yourself having good feelings so that others can have them. You may start to feel like you are the martyr and suffering in silence as you try to borrow some of the good feelings you are so freely giving away to others.

What makes you do this?  Don’t you matter as much as they do?  Where did this come from?

I know that I learned this from my mother.  As I grew up, my mother’s model of being perfect to make others happy taught me how to please others by putting them first.  Over time, with repetition and practice, I became just like her.

As soon as I became aware that I was a people pleaser, I made a conscious decision to change this habit.  The choice I made to be a model of thriving while being personally empowered and uplifting others from my position of strength, clarity, and alignment has become such a rich blessing.  It has made me Free To Be Me.

If you feel like you have been leaving yourself behind and putting others needs and wants first, I invite you to freely choose to BE YOU too, right now, by putting your dominant hand over your heart and promising yourself that from this moment forward you will take whatever steps you are inspired to take to thrive, become personally empowered from a position of strength, clarity, and alignment.  This conscious decision alone will help you shift your present course to help you open up to the path to your freedom.

Then to reinforce this conscious choice, practice these simple steps every day:

  • Take time to follow your heart every moment of every day by making decisions based on what feels best to you, no matter what others say or do.  

  • Just pause, breathe and relax. 

  • Allow the best answer/direction for you to come into your mind.

  • When you are ready, take action based on how you feel, guided by your heart, soul, and higher self.

  • Check-in with yourself to see how you are feeling about continuing to move in the direction you choose.  Sometimes it only takes a small adjustment to make all the difference in feeling totally comfortable and free.

  • As you feel inspired, make any adjustments in the direction you are moving.  You can change your path whenever you want. No decision is ever set in cement.

  • Have Fun!  Just Enjoy Experiencing and Experimenting with what works best for You!

With diligent practice and the power of your intention, before you know it, you will be living free, being who you truly are with everyone and under any and all circumstances. 

If you are interested in finding out more on how to make the changes you desire in your life, please contact me for a Free Strategy Session by clicking HERE  and I promise you, we will have fun as you rediscover your True Self!

 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

 

 

What is the Truth about Vulnerability?

Is there more to vulnerability than meets the eye?  Does being vulnerable mean you are weak or strong?  What is really behind the ability to openly show up as your true self?  

The Urban Dictionary tells us being vulnerable is :

Someone who is completely and rawly open, unguarded with their heart, mind, and soul. Being vulnerable happens when you trust completely…”  

Dictionary.com describes weakness as:

“the state or quality of being weak; lack of strength, firmness, vigor, or the like; feebleness.  an inadequate or defective quality, as in a person’s character; slight fault or defect…”

What does it mean to be strong?  The Urban Dictionary says it means:

“someone who comes off as confident, someone who is comfortable in their own skin, someone who can take on the world…”

It depends on your perspective and your experience what is true for you.  I used to believe that being vulnerable was a sign of weakness and had shut myself down to all the amazing possibilities that vulnerability could hold.

Now I believe that it takes someone deeply rooted and confident in their own truth to be vulnerable enough to openly show up and own all of themselves, even their imperfections.   They are able to empower others by their own humanness. And doing that takes unshakable strength.

Over the years I have found that it was the teachers and people in my life who openly showed me their true selves that made the biggest impact on me and helped me to believe in myself and my own personal power.  They instilled in me the ability to fearlessly step into my passion and live my purpose by being willing to be myself.

As a teacher and mentor, now I am better able to empower my students by just being who I am, totally comfortable in my own skin.  In fact, the more vulnerable I am, the stronger they get and the more everyone begins to have Fun.

Quite naturally, I will often find it humorous when I am being myself in the moment and just have to laugh.   This has such a far-reaching effect and helps others relax, release their resistance to being authentic and start enjoying themselves more.  As I openly show them my true self, they are better able to appreciate their uniqueness, believe in themselves and their own personal power.

What can you do to become skilled at being more vulnerable and strong with yourself and others?  I have created the following list of some essential habits that I practice every day. And I know that they will help you too.

How to Empower yourself and others by being Strong and Vulnerable at the same time:

  • Connect to your value as a unique person.  You are valuable just as you are.  Your value comes from your own uniqueness.

  • Follow Your own Heart.  It is your life, your path, your journey so consciously choose what you want to do every step of the way.

  • Believe in your own truths.  Be willing to discover what is true for you and then live accordingly.

  • Be true to yourself.  Be your own best friend.

  • Laugh at yourself and your own humanness.  Relax and have more fun no matter what anyone else thinks.

  • Allow others to be who they are and follow their own path.  You are not responsible for them, so give them the freedom to be themselves.

  • Embrace the differences you have with others.  Choose to learn and grow from them.

  • Celebrate the incredible opportunity to Just BE YOU!  Enjoy the personal freedom that comes from being Strong and Vulnerable.

The more you practice these on a daily basis, you will begin to experience a stronger connection with your own personal power.  By being willing to be real, you can more easily and fearlessly step into living your passion and your purpose. Your ability to help influence others to do the same will be a direct result of your efforts to free yourself. The more vulnerable you allow yourself to be, the more opportunity you give others to be stronger in their own vulnerability. And everyone ends up having more Fun. 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

 

 

What’s Missing In The “Cookie Cutter” Approach to YOUR Success?

 

Have you been lured into believing that someone else knows the exact formula that will create your success?  And if you follow it step by step, you will quickly become just as successful as they are?
Unfortunately, just because it worked for them, isn’t any guarantee that it will work for you.

Coming from my own experience, and after perfectly implementing several people’s different formulas to create my successful business,
every one of them failed to create the success I was promised by its creator.

I believe that we each are as individual and unique as anyone else, so how can “one size fits all” apply here?
These type of programs may have valuable information for you to learn from.
However, in my experience, you still have to follow your own inner guidance to find out and follow what feels and works best for you to create your own unique success.

If you look at how Dictionary.com defines cookie-cutter

  • having the same configuration or look as many others of a given kind; identical: rows of cookie-cutter houses.
  • lacking individuality; stereotyped or formulaic:novel filled with cookie-cutter characters

 

…and then unique

  • existing as the only one or as the sole example; single; solitary in type or characteristics: a unique copy of an ancient manuscript.
  • having no like or equal; unparalleled; incomparable: Bach was unique in his handling of counterpoint.
  • limited in occurrence to a given class, situation, or area:species unique to Australia.

 

Do you want to be just another copy of someone else’s original, or do you want to create something more unique and authentic that is a true reflection of you and who you are?  By Law of Attraction, you will attract those clients and customers who are like you.  However, how can they find you if you are hiding behind someone else’s program?

So when you choose to immerse yourself in the training from these types of programs, remember that they may give you the exact steps that worked for them, but like me, they may not work for you.  So to become truly successful, you might discover, as I did, that it takes creating your own unique version of what you learn from all of your individual experience and training.

When I finally had the confidence to be my Authentic self and follow my own inner guidance, I felt so much more personal freedom and happiness.  My business expanded and I started attracting my perfect clients from all around the world. I began coaching them one on one and in groups to help them become more successful too.  Those I have worked with since then, who follow their own inner guidance, have experienced an increase in their own personal and/or business success and are having so much more fun being who they truly are.

So if you want to be more successful, follow your inner guidance to those who are supporting you being your true self.   When you are inspired to work with me, I will help you discover your authentic self so you can use your own unique formula to create your success.  

To sign up for a free strategy session with me, go HERE and put “Free Strategy Session” in the comments.

Just Imagine what could happen if you allowed all of YOUR magic to come alive.

 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

Do You Want to Find the Missing Piece for Creating the Success You Want in Your Life?

 

Find the Missing Piece to Create the Successful Future you Deserve and Want!

As a Master Certified Life Coach, Reiki Master, and Energy Healer,  Nada knows what it takes to Enjoy creating your Awesome Future effortlessly and easily, by working with all of the Universal Laws.  She will work with you, on an individual basis during these group calls to make sure you learn how to do this for yourself.  

JOIN NADA the first three Tuesdays of October, at 9 pm Eastern, 6 pm Pacific and she will guide you through 3 powerful meditations and coaching sessions that focus on how to Create more Success in your life by being who you truly are!  

These transformational sessions will teach you how to connect to your Divine Self, open your heart and intuition to receive inspiration and learn how to Become Successful by Being Authentically YOU!

All sessions are recorded if you miss a call or just want to relisten and dive deeper into how to create your own unique success.

BONUSES: 

A Free Open Forum Group Session on the 4th Tuesday of the month is also included where you can ask questions, celebrate each other’s successes,  and just having Fun being together and supporting each other! 

When you join, you will also become a lifetime member of Nada’s private Facebook group page where you can post your successes and questions.  Nada also shares brief insights here on a daily basis to inspire and support you on your journey to your Authentic Self.

Open up to Receive your Unique Success Now and register HERE for this Incredible Opportunity!!!

 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂