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How to Empower Your Life by Reinventing the White Horse Syndrome!

 

Do you allow yourself to be continuously hurt by others you have somehow idolized?  Have you put them on a pedestal, made into a knight in shining armor or a perfect princess?  Then when they show their unique human side, you become devastated thinking that they aren’t who you thought they were.  You are not alone. It is often referred to as the White Horse Syndrome.  The Urban Dictionary describes this as, “A condition in which a person’s frame of thought in all things romantic is completely dream oriented and not grounded in reality.”

As children growing up, we learned to do this from fairytales and the example of adults in our lives. However, these experiences were there to teach us how to use our imagination and empower us to become the unlimited, deliberate creators we came here to be.  It was never intended for us to give our power away to another human being that we had imagined to be everything we could never become like. By desperately trying to become like them or somehow fit into their life, we end up losing ourselves in the process. The real pain is that we desert our true selves and get lost in a romantic dream that isn’t grounded in reality.

The truth is, No one is here to rescue you from reality or save you from anything, including yourself.  There isn’t anything you need to be rescued from. As you stay grounded and present in each moment, connected to your own Divine Guidance, you are perfectly safe.  You will know everything you need to know to create your Heart’s Desires.

How do you reinvent the White Horse Syndrome?  These six steps will help you to empower your life by staying grounded and connected to your own Dreams.  You will then be able to get back on your own White Horse and tap into the unlimited possibilities you can become and create.

  1. Embrace yourself as Divinely Perfect just as you are.  There is nothing to change or improve.  You are more than enough. Love all parts of yourself for who you are as a human being.  The perceived good and bad are both parts of your path to wholeness. 

  2. Honor your feelings, and allow yourself to feel them.  Denying your feelings will only take you further away from who you truly are.  This can cause you to believe that you aren’t good enough, that there is something wrong with you, or that others have what you are missing.

  3. Embrace others as being Divinely Perfect just as they are.  Allow them to be human beings doing the best they can under their present circumstances, just like you are.  This doesn’t mean you have to like or even approve of every part of their personality, or actions. Just know that who they truly are goes far deeper than they will ever show most people.

  4. See others you admire as Mirrors reflecting all that you already are or have the capacity to become.  You are not them, but you couldn’t see something you like or love about them if you didn’t already possess that same quality or have the capacity to become more like it.  Use that reflection to encourage you to be your own unique version of what you see and appreciate in others. 

  5. Forgive and Let Go of anything anyone does that doesn’t turn out to be the way you thought it should be.  Accept that none of us have the whole picture. Hold onto the vision that somehow everything happens for the highest good of all. 

  6. Put everyone back up on their own white horse, including yourself.  See them as perfect, being Divinely guided to follow their own path and live their true purpose.  We are all doing our best and deserve each other’s compassion, including our own.

When we follow these steps, we are choosing to see the Highest truth for all. We are doing our best to keep riding that White Horse of our own dreams every day. 

 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

 

How to use the Law of Attraction to Continue to Create the Spirit of Christmas Throughout the New Year!

 

Did you think Christmas was over?  Just when you were feeling So Good…!

The feelings Christmas creates never have to end!  They can be the beginning of a wonderful opportunity to continue to share our JOY, LOVE, and PEACE with others and ourselves throughout the New Year.  

During the Christmas season we are often filled with the Spirit of Giving, Receiving, Peace, Love, and Joy. By using the Law of Attraction we can carry that spirit forward into the New Year. 

These six simple processes and techniques can help you Enjoy using the Law of Attraction to continue to create more of that Spirit of Christmas throughout the New Year:

  • Start and end each day with Gratitude.  Create a Gratitude Journal by using a special notebook or paper that feels meaningful to you.  Write down at least 5 things you are grateful for right after you wake up in the morning and right before you go to bed at night.

  • Take at least 5 to 10 minutes to Meditate twice a day.  Every morning after you wake up and every night before you go to bed, take time to meditate by breathing and reconnecting with the Truth of Who You Are as an unlimited spiritual being and powerful creator.

  • Use the Power of your Intention to Pre Pave Your Day for Success.  See it filled with more Peace, Love, Joy, and Abundance every step of the way.  Write down exactly what you want to happen and how you want to feel as you are creating your to-do list at night or before you start your day.

  • Practice Pivoting Your Thoughts to ones that Feel Better.  Develop your ability to be more aware of what you are thinking each moment.  Then find better feeling thoughts to replace the ones that aren’t supporting how you want to feel and what you want to create in your life.

  • Let Go of what you can’t take care of or change and Focus on the Divine Perfection in Everything.  Your perspective and focus are where you begin to create what happens next.  Choose where you want to hold your attention and what you want to believe about Your Future.  As you change your perspective, what you experience and the way you feel about it will also improve.

  • Sincerely ASK for what you Want,  BELIEVE with all of your Heart, and Open up to  RECEIVE with Total Gratitude.  Check out my previous article, Three Simple Things You Need To Do To Get What You Want for Christmas and Throughout the New Year” to help you continue to more easily attract the Desires of your Heart.

Applying any one or all of these Law of Attraction processes and techniques will help you continue to create more JOY, LOVE, PEACE and that Spirit of Christmas throughout the New Year.  I encourage you to follow your own inner guidance and do whatever feels best to you.

As my editor and good friend, Tara Soliz says, “Don’t pack up your joy and put it away with your Christmas decorations”.  

 

 

Loving light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

 

 

FROM LACK AND LIMITATION TO ABUNDANCE AND INFINITE POSSIBILITIES! Especially as a Caregiver!

 

Are you struggling with financial concerns and problems as a result of being a caregiver?  This can definitely be a big part of the stress for anyone who is caring for a family member.  When you are faced with a medical catastrophe, even if you do have insurance coverage, or not, navigating through paying all the bills and expenses is almost more stressful than caring for your loved one.    

In my experience, it was my perspective and attitude that got me through all of this with flying colors.  I know that we live in an Abundant Universe and God, or our Source is infinitely loving and does answer our prayers, but we do have to do our part.  Here are the 5 most important steps you can take to facilitate this process:

  • Ask for the help you need. 

  • Believe in yourself and your ability to successfully get through this time.

  • Trust yourself and the process

  • Be grateful for everything you have been given and will receive.

  • Do everything you are inspired to do in your present reality to get the help you need. 

How do you ask for help?  First and foremost, you go within and pray, imagine, or intend that it will all work out in the best possible way for everyone. And Let Go of how, when and where the answers and solutions will come from.  Prepare yourself to be surprised and delighted at the way it all unfolds as you hold your focus on your desires being fulfilled.

What can you do to believe in yourself enough to be able to get through all of it?  Remember any and all of the times you have successfully maneuvered through difficult situations in the past.  How did you feel after your accomplishments? Think of your present situation and imagine feeling the same way you did then, as you take every action to get where you want to go now.  Stay focused on that feeling every step of the way and create a series of celebrations as you successfully complete each step.

To trust yourself and the process means that you stop second-guessing your decisions. And you don’t let others or the present moment conditions scatter your focus.  This can dilute the possible outcome and stop the flow of what you really want from coming to you. 

Being Grateful is one of the most powerful ways to bring in more of your Abundance.  It helps open your heart to the infinite possibilities that are just waiting for you to help you in the most unexpected and miraculous ways.

Since we are physical beings, you do have to take the necessary actions you are inspired to take to get what you want.  But, if you have already done the previous steps, this action can feel effortless and easy. 

As Bob Proctor has said, “ Lack and Limitation can only exist when we make room for them in our mind.”  No matter what your circumstances are, frequently focusing on your infinite possibilities and taking the actions you are inspired to take will open the door to more of your abundance, especially as a caregiver.

 

 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

 

 

FREE TO BE ME!!!

If you are a habitual people pleaser, like I have been, it is probably hard to feel personally empowered, free to be yourself, or happy, joyful, peaceful and loving.  Instead, it can make you feel unempowered, imprisoned, stressed, anxious, codependent and victimized.

Over time, this habit can become a big part of your identity and make you lose sight of who you really are.  You may not even realize that you are being a people pleaser because it is the only way you know how to be. As others pick up on this, you find yourself allowing them to use you.  Then you become a victim of their desires.

As you choose to put your wants and needs last, you begin to resent that you are always making everyone else happy by sacrificing your own needs. This can make you feel like you are very good at making peace, but not good at feeling so peaceful within yourself.  You deny yourself having good feelings so that others can have them. You may start to feel like you are the martyr and suffering in silence as you try to borrow some of the good feelings you are so freely giving away to others.

What makes you do this?  Don’t you matter as much as they do?  Where did this come from?

I know that I learned this from my mother.  As I grew up, my mother’s model of being perfect to make others happy taught me how to please others by putting them first.  Over time, with repetition and practice, I became just like her.

As soon as I became aware that I was a people pleaser, I made a conscious decision to change this habit.  The choice I made to be a model of thriving while being personally empowered and uplifting others from my position of strength, clarity, and alignment has become such a rich blessing.  It has made me Free To Be Me.

If you feel like you have been leaving yourself behind and putting others needs and wants first, I invite you to freely choose to BE YOU too, right now, by putting your dominant hand over your heart and promising yourself that from this moment forward you will take whatever steps you are inspired to take to thrive, become personally empowered from a position of strength, clarity, and alignment.  This conscious decision alone will help you shift your present course to help you open up to the path to your freedom.

Then to reinforce this conscious choice, practice these simple steps every day:

  • Take time to follow your heart every moment of every day by making decisions based on what feels best to you, no matter what others say or do.  

  • Just pause, breathe and relax. 

  • Allow the best answer/direction for you to come into your mind.

  • When you are ready, take action based on how you feel, guided by your heart, soul, and higher self.

  • Check-in with yourself to see how you are feeling about continuing to move in the direction you choose.  Sometimes it only takes a small adjustment to make all the difference in feeling totally comfortable and free.

  • As you feel inspired, make any adjustments in the direction you are moving.  You can change your path whenever you want. No decision is ever set in cement.

  • Have Fun!  Just Enjoy Experiencing and Experimenting with what works best for You!

With diligent practice and the power of your intention, before you know it, you will be living free, being who you truly are with everyone and under any and all circumstances. 

If you are interested in finding out more on how to make the changes you desire in your life, please contact me for a Free Strategy Session by clicking HERE  and I promise you, we will have fun as you rediscover your True Self!

 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂

 

 

What is the Truth about Vulnerability?

Is there more to vulnerability than meets the eye?  Does being vulnerable mean you are weak or strong?  What is really behind the ability to openly show up as your true self?  

The Urban Dictionary tells us being vulnerable is :

Someone who is completely and rawly open, unguarded with their heart, mind, and soul. Being vulnerable happens when you trust completely…”  

Dictionary.com describes weakness as:

“the state or quality of being weak; lack of strength, firmness, vigor, or the like; feebleness.  an inadequate or defective quality, as in a person’s character; slight fault or defect…”

What does it mean to be strong?  The Urban Dictionary says it means:

“someone who comes off as confident, someone who is comfortable in their own skin, someone who can take on the world…”

It depends on your perspective and your experience what is true for you.  I used to believe that being vulnerable was a sign of weakness and had shut myself down to all the amazing possibilities that vulnerability could hold.

Now I believe that it takes someone deeply rooted and confident in their own truth to be vulnerable enough to openly show up and own all of themselves, even their imperfections.   They are able to empower others by their own humanness. And doing that takes unshakable strength.

Over the years I have found that it was the teachers and people in my life who openly showed me their true selves that made the biggest impact on me and helped me to believe in myself and my own personal power.  They instilled in me the ability to fearlessly step into my passion and live my purpose by being willing to be myself.

As a teacher and mentor, now I am better able to empower my students by just being who I am, totally comfortable in my own skin.  In fact, the more vulnerable I am, the stronger they get and the more everyone begins to have Fun.

Quite naturally, I will often find it humorous when I am being myself in the moment and just have to laugh.   This has such a far-reaching effect and helps others relax, release their resistance to being authentic and start enjoying themselves more.  As I openly show them my true self, they are better able to appreciate their uniqueness, believe in themselves and their own personal power.

What can you do to become skilled at being more vulnerable and strong with yourself and others?  I have created the following list of some essential habits that I practice every day. And I know that they will help you too.

How to Empower yourself and others by being Strong and Vulnerable at the same time:

  • Connect to your value as a unique person.  You are valuable just as you are.  Your value comes from your own uniqueness.

  • Follow Your own Heart.  It is your life, your path, your journey so consciously choose what you want to do every step of the way.

  • Believe in your own truths.  Be willing to discover what is true for you and then live accordingly.

  • Be true to yourself.  Be your own best friend.

  • Laugh at yourself and your own humanness.  Relax and have more fun no matter what anyone else thinks.

  • Allow others to be who they are and follow their own path.  You are not responsible for them, so give them the freedom to be themselves.

  • Embrace the differences you have with others.  Choose to learn and grow from them.

  • Celebrate the incredible opportunity to Just BE YOU!  Enjoy the personal freedom that comes from being Strong and Vulnerable.

The more you practice these on a daily basis, you will begin to experience a stronger connection with your own personal power.  By being willing to be real, you can more easily and fearlessly step into living your passion and your purpose. Your ability to help influence others to do the same will be a direct result of your efforts to free yourself. The more vulnerable you allow yourself to be, the more opportunity you give others to be stronger in their own vulnerability. And everyone ends up having more Fun. 

Loving Light and Smiles,

Nada 🙂