Posts Tagged ‘People Pleaser’
FREE TO BE ME!!!
- Published on Monday, 22 July 2019 19:15
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If you are a habitual people pleaser, like I have been, it is probably hard to feel personally empowered, free to be yourself, or happy, joyful, peaceful and loving. Instead, it can make you feel unempowered, imprisoned, stressed, anxious, codependent and victimized.
Over time, this habit can become a big part of your identity and make you lose sight of who you really are. You may not even realize that you are being a people pleaser because it is the only way you know how to be. As others pick up on this, you find yourself allowing them to use you. Then you become a victim of their desires.
As you choose to put your wants and needs last, you begin to resent that you are always making everyone else happy by sacrificing your own needs. This can make you feel like you are very good at making peace, but not good at feeling so peaceful within yourself. You deny yourself having good feelings so that others can have them. You may start to feel like you are the martyr and suffering in silence as you try to borrow some of the good feelings you are so freely giving away to others.
What makes you do this? Don’t you matter as much as they do? Where did this come from?
I know that I learned this from my mother. As I grew up, my mother’s model of being perfect to make others happy taught me how to please others by putting them first. Over time, with repetition and practice, I became just like her.
As soon as I became aware that I was a people pleaser, I made a conscious decision to change this habit. The choice I made to be a model of thriving while being personally empowered and uplifting others from my position of strength, clarity, and alignment has become such a rich blessing. It has made me Free To Be Me.
If you feel like you have been leaving yourself behind and putting others needs and wants first, I invite you to freely choose to BE YOU too, right now, by putting your dominant hand over your heart and promising yourself that from this moment forward you will take whatever steps you are inspired to take to thrive, become personally empowered from a position of strength, clarity, and alignment. This conscious decision alone will help you shift your present course to help you open up to the path to your freedom.
Then to reinforce this conscious choice, practice these simple steps every day:
Take time to follow your heart every moment of every day by making decisions based on what feels best to you, no matter what others say or do.
Just pause, breathe and relax.
Allow the best answer/direction for you to come into your mind.
When you are ready, take action based on how you feel, guided by your heart, soul, and higher self.
Check-in with yourself to see how you are feeling about continuing to move in the direction you choose. Sometimes it only takes a small adjustment to make all the difference in feeling totally comfortable and free.
As you feel inspired, make any adjustments in the direction you are moving. You can change your path whenever you want. No decision is ever set in cement.
Have Fun! Just Enjoy Experiencing and Experimenting with what works best for You!
With diligent practice and the power of your intention, before you know it, you will be living free, being who you truly are with everyone and under any and all circumstances.
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Loving Light and Smiles,